The committee meeting is on Thursday. It's gonna be a LONG week!
No pictures. No exciting news. Yet.
So, I thought I'd bore you by telling you about a book Lucas and I read. The most exciting thing about this post is that we each read this fatty book in less than a day. I know...we're wicked-fast readers. Our lightning speed-reading was due to the fact that we were highly motivated - our social worker wouldn't let us proceed with the boys in Ethi0pia until we had read this book.
"Our Own: Adopting and Parenting the Older Child", in case you can't read that for yourself. It's actually a scary book - lots of "worst case scenarios" about various behaviors one might see in an older adopted child. It was a very eye-opening book, though. A book everyone should read if they're considering adopting an "older" child. Gotta prepare yourself.
The one thing it doesn't take into consideration, however, is God. THE most important factor, in my opinion. Will it be hard? Yes. Will there be nutty temper tantrums that I don't know how to deal with? For sure. (Ugh!) Might there be poop smeared on the bathroom walls? Possibly. (I shudder to think.) But this I know for SURE. God has asked us to adopt. If He's asked us, and we obey, what makes me think that He won't provide for our EVERY need? He will. He always does.
"My help comes from the LORD who made heaven and earth! He will not let you stumble; the One who watches over you will not slumber."
Waiting to get the full file on these cute fellas so we can pour over it and pray over it to see if we can move forward with them.
Waiting to hear if the agency will match them with our family, despite their reservations about the boys' ages mixed with our girls' ages.
Waiting to hear God's voice - YES these are your boys! Or NO, move on.
So we wait, (somewhat) patiently.
I found the boys last week on an agency's Waiting Child List, before Lucas and I ever had the discussion of "let's start the adoption process." After we decided it was finally time to start, we put in our application with the agency. And then suddenly they were gone...being looked at by another family. I was disappointed.
Fast-forward 5 days, and the agency is calling me, asking if we might still be interested in these fellas. What?!?!?!?!?! So we're waiting, with hope, that they will say that the boys are a "good fit" for our family, so that we can proceed with the mountain of paperwork.
These sweet boys are in Ethiopia, and are ages 3 and 5. The three year old has club feet, but it's being corrected, so they are both considered special needs (the other one is because he is "old").
I've seen their faces. Gasp! I'm in love already...
My couch is ugly. And small. It's a love-seat, actually, and I love it for a small handful of reasons:
Number 1: It was my sweet grandmother's couch. She was a shorty, at 4'11", so she had no need for a long ol' couch. I had the privilege of living with her in college - no one else on campus had a 76 year old roommate. I inherited it from her after she went home to be with Jesus. The right arm of 'said couch' has a worn spot where she used to rest her little head while watching Law & Order reruns every night.
But the big fat reason I love my ugly couch is because it's a reminder of our priorities (mine and my husband's). It means that we are beginning to value things of this world less and less, and are seeking the things that touch the heart of God more and more. It means that rather than saving up for a big new sectional-with-chaise-lounger, we'll be spending and saving our money for things that really matter. Like bringing little ones home to live with us. To give them a family and a home and lots and lots of love.
And this is why I have started this blog. Not necessarily so everyone can read my mind-numbing posts, but to chronicle this amazing, overwhelming journey so that someday he/she/they can read about it. And also because I have a weak-sauce memory, and if it ain't down on "paper", I won't remember it.
And mostly to give God His worthy, all-deserved glory. Thank You for putting sweet, precious orphans on our hearts.
- Since 2007 - thinking, praying, talking about adopting
- 01.07.10 - Found a pair of brothers in Ethiopia on Holt's waiting child list
- 01.10.10 - Lucas said "let's get the adoption ball rolling!" Applied with Holt's Waiting Child program
- 02.01.10 - Spent our first official adoption dollar and applied with Holt
- 02.02.10 - 02.18.10 - Delay, delay, delay. Wait, wait, wait for Holt to have their committee meeting to choose a family for the brothers.
- 02.19.10 - A different family was chosen for boys in Ethiopia. We're moving on.
- 02.25.10 - Applied with Gladney's Rwanda program.
- 02.28.10 - First home study meeting with our social worker. I hope my house is child-proof enough!
- 03.01.10 - Applied with Mugisha Ministries to help us with an independent adoption. Received renewed passports in the mail.
- 03.03.10 - Fingerprinted for state and local backgroud checks.
- 03.06.10 - Accepted by Mugisha Ministries!
- 03.10.10 - Mailed I-600a
- 03.11.10 - Mailed our birth and marriage certificates back to HI and AR for authentication.
- 03.14.10 - Home study visit #2
- 03.15.10 - Realized I messed up the fee on my I-600a. Waiting for its return. Started online adoption training.
- 3.20.10 - Received our Immigration rejection and sent them the rest of our fingerprinting fees.
- 4.2.10 - Completed home study received in the mail